Black Handloom cotton dress : Jaypore
Kashmiri Jacket: Mom’s closet
Tribal neckpiece: Lost Lover store
Its been quite cold here lately. I know i know what you are thinking, its April already but it doesn’t get better here until end of May probably. But on a happier note, there are signs of spring 🙂 with beautiful yellow & pink blooms around our neighborhood and luscious green grass outside the window so i guess we can survive the cold for one more month 😅
To be honest, i have never been a cold weather person in my entire life and i myself was surprised to be living in this climate for a long time now and just being “okay” about it. I am the type of person who doesn’t like shivering all day & would wear extra layers and turn on the heater until i feel comfortable moving around. I need to make sure that i feel warm & comfortable before i start doing any tasks so i feel good about my life 😈 i know that sounds a little too much but when you are in situations that you haven’t been prepared for or even imagined to be in it, procrastination happens way too much & way too often 😂 Who’s with me on this?
And for that reason, it’s not always easy to wear something that i really like or want to. If you are following me on Instagram, you might know how much i admire draping sarees but considering the climate over here, most of the time its almost impossible to wear one outside and that’s how all my pictures are taken indoors with my messy drapes in our small apartment.
The joy of wearing Mom’s Kashmiri Jacket
I am old school really, one of my favorite things to do whenever i visit my parents back in India is to raid my mom’s closet. I have been doing it since i was a little girl and i don’t think its ever going to stop. It gives me immense pleasure and a feeling that i really couldn’t describe in words whenever i wear something that my mom had once worn.
One of these special pieces is my mom’s embroidery jacket from Kashmir which she had bought on her first ever visit to Kashmir for herself along with a nice Kashmiri embroidery salwar suit for me. While i haven’t got a chance to wear that as well, I was so delighted to wear my mom’s jacket recently when the weather started to be a little friendly. The jacket by the way doesn’t fit her anymore so its actually going to be with mine now & forever 🙂
The Kashmiri thread embroidery is really opulent with its design pattern inspired by nature, flowers, tree branches in a variety of different colors combined together. And when it holds a special emotion such as an Heirloom piece passed on by my mother to me, its add so much more importance to it.
MY WARDROBE RESOLUTIONS
I thought it would be nice to talk a little about my wardrobe resolutions while i share the joy of having my mom’s jacket by my side. In fact one of the most important ideologies i have been applying for my wardrobe from past one year is to be consider if a particular piece of clothing literally brings “joy” to me or not! I apply this ideology before buying anything new or before discarding anything old, in both ways it has been helpful to avoid impulsive decisions regarding my wardrobe.
I know every one of us has a LOVE / HATE relationship with our clothes, thats how we have been taught to function actually. But with changing times and switching to a more sustainable lifestyle, it has become utterly important to develop only LOVE relationship with our clothes.
(The popular Netflix series called “Tidying up” by Marie Kondo is something to consider watching before you finally making any resolutions for yourself.)
A few wardrobe resolutions that i have taken since last one year has helped me understand my personal needs better and has also helped me realize what i really enjoy wearing and what brings happiness, which for me is a real priority:
1. USE WHAT I ALREADY OWN.
2. DON’T BUY SOMETHING JUST FOR AN OCCASION.
3. DON’T BUY SOMETHING JUST BECAUSE IT IS ON SALE OR REALLY POPULAR.
4. STICK TO WHAT BRINGS JOY TO ME AND ENJOY THAT MORE.
5. BELIEVE THAT I HAVE A UNIQUE SENSE OF STYLE & TRULY OWN IT.
USE WHAT I ALREADY OWN.
I won’t refuse to the fact that i love shopping. In fact, we all do right? 🙂 As a matter of fact, It is one of the things that i really enjoy doing with my mumma whenever I visit her and the one thing i miss the most now that i am miles apart from her.
In 2017, during my last visit to India, I bought quite a few ethnic cotton dresses for myself. Believe it or not, it has been something that was long due. I have certainly missed wearing clothes that truly bring out the happiness in me while i was so occupied with my college & professional life. And now that i over with that phase, it was time to enjoy things that i had waited too long for and revel in the feeling.
I added quite a few cotton garments (dresses, sarees, blouses etc.) that year, mostly from brands who are trying to make our own planet a better place to live by choosing sustainable & ethical practices. Ever since last year, i have been trying my best to use what i already have, enjoy it thoroughly, mend it if needed and to truly enjoy the wardrobe i have right not before adding anything new to it.
This has been my top most wardrobe resolution so far & honestly the most difficult on too, but i really have been enjoying digging up my closet to enjoy clothes that i might have forgotten about.
DON’T BUY SOMETHING JUST FOR AN OCCASION or JUST BECAUSE IT IS ON SALE OR REALLY POPULAR.
2017 marked the beginning of switching my daily choices from fast to slow fashion & lifestyle. For that reason, i had to make some great changes in my lifestyle by refraining myself from doing things that i once liked which is visiting shopping malls or spending hours & hours on the internet online shopping. It was important to train my mind that such unnecessarily trips to malls and shopping centers results in nothing but impulsive buying.
True story is that – you will either find something at a great deal that you can’t resist or something really popular that catches your attention, in both ways you will end having an extensive wardrobe with unwanted items that you cannot even get rid of that easily coz you haven’t even worn that much.
So for me the rule is, No shopping malls = No unnecessary shopping = Less buying = Happy wardrobe!
To further refrain myself from irrepressible buying and you may note this because this has been really really helpful to commit to my wardrobe resolution is that i UNSUBSCRIBED to each & every newsletter and online subscriptions from brands (mostly fast fashion but all in general) that had been trying to lure me with random sales & discounts throughout the year.
And i say it again, unsubscribing to such emails has really helped me avoid unnecessary shopping sprees that consumed both time & money.
STICK TO WHAT BRINGS JOY TO ME AND ENJOY THAT MORE.
Last year when i was going to turn 29 that is when it actually hit me hard in the face. I, for real has always imagined myself draped in six yards of beauty aka easy breezy cotton sarees in my late 20’s but while i was approaching 29, there were literary no signs of how i wanted myself to look like.
All these years, while i was getting to know myself & growing, my clothes did not get much attention. I wore what felt comfortable and needed less hard work even though in my heart it never really made me happy. Until last year, i kept on waiting for the right moment/time to finally break barriers and let myself revel in the feeling of draping six yards of fabric. The more i wanted to, the more it felt like a task over a choice and just like a dream, i kept chasing it for a long time, wishing it to become a reality one day.
For a year, in between the constant chasing, i just wore what i already had in my wardrobe whether it brought me any joy or not. The more i wore random clothes, the more it hit me that i was really wasting the time of my life by not doing what makes me really happy, and that includes wearing what i always wanted to.
Since then, i make extra efforts to stick to what brings joy to me and enjoy that more.
BELIEVE THAT I HAVE A UNIQUE SENSE OF STYLE & TRULY OWN IT.
This wardrobe resolution is more like a life resolution & most important one for me since i need to remind myself of this again & again. My constant introspection about my lifestyle choices, clothes & everything i do, has finally lead me realize that i always had a unique & eccentric style but never in these 28 years i had actually owned it.
“Owning” what makes you special is not something everyone can do and it also took me a long time as well. But since last 2 years, my constant efforts to stick to all these wardrobe resolutions i talked about has helped me really own my style and stick to it without being influenced from temporary fashion trends or impulsive shopping sprees.
Bottom line is : Once i realized what made me truly happy there was no turning back and i started loving my wardrobe more.
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Concept and styling: Tanvi Mutneja (@tanvi_msidhu)
Photography : Rajvir Sidhu