Every time i sit down with a pen and a paper pouring my heart out into a blog post, i start questioning myself what this blog really means to me. Ever since i left home i really felt the need to share my feelings and experiences through some kind of a medium (online preferably so more & more of you could relate to it) but i wasn’t sure if this blog was a good idea to start with. It was merely an idea for a hobby that would include a few of different things i enjoy doing, like writing and photography or web designing.
Every week when i sit on my couch with a journal in my hand to pen down every little thought running in my mind onto a piece of paper, i instantly feel so overjoyed and happy to be able to give words and meaning to all those unfiltered thoughts that occur in my mind, a quality that most people lack or experience shortage of words in expressing themselves truely.
At this point, it doesn’t matter if people around me appreciate my efforts or get inspired in any way, what matters at this point is to be able to live my dream (as a blogger) i had a year ago and accomplish it.
How many of us actually have dreams outside of our personal and professional lives ? And how many of us actually start pursuing our dreams without being held back by any external or negative force coming in the way of living a full life?
Before we move forward, i want you to know that today’s post is solely dedicated to all those unfulfilled dreams and regrets, to all those sleepless nights tossing and turning in bed constantly wishing for that one chance to go back in time & change things and live our dreams like we always wanted to! 😒
If you aren’t inspired enough to read further, i suggest you to still do it, i am sure there must be something in your life that has still remained unfulfilled and unattended, and may be its not too late to pursue it! 😊
UNFULFILLED DREAMS & REGRETS
We all have dreams and aspirations in life and we all want to see ourselves to be somewhere in the years ahead. It is indeed a blessing as a human being, to be able to dream and come up with ideas about how we want to shape our lives in future unlike, any other living creature on this planet.
But what happens when the years go by & those dreams never come to fruitation? What happens when we find our “actual self” way different from our “ideal self” that we wished to become and we develop this feeling of failure in fulfilling our life’s desires?
IF you ask me i would say that nothing in this life is more devastating and disturbing than to have feelings of regret in life, unable to fulfill our dreams and living a life full of setbacks. Whenever i think about all those little dreams i had but never had the courage or the will to pursue them, the agonizing feeling of regret instantly robs the joy out of the present moment. If only i knew that i will regret it all my life, the little joys of life that i overlooked trying to work hard and focusing on the bigger picture.
Although life has given me enough opportunities to be able to do what makes my soul happy but often find myself thinking about a few of those chances that i did not take (due to various unrealistic/silly reasons) and what would have happened if i had taken the chance? I guess i’ll never know!
A research, published in the journal Emotion, builds on the idea that three elements make up a person’s sense of self: the actual, ideal and the ought selves.
The actual self is made up of the attributes a person believes they possess. The ideal self is the attributes they would ideally like to possess, such as hopes, goals, aspirations or wishes. The ought self is the person they feel they should have been based on duties, obligations and responsibilities. And believe it or not, most of us regret fulfilling the dreams and hopes related to their ideal selves, coz either we are too busy or too scared or too confused about what really makes us happy in life.
I still lack a few characteristics or qualities that i wished to develop as my ideal self and i have a bucket full of regrets of all the opportunities and risks i didn’t take which might have probably affected my life in a good way but at present, i certainly don’t want to be that person anymore. And for this reason, i often let my heart guide my path nowadays and do whatever makes me the most happy!
FOLLOW YOUR HEART, LIVE WITHOUT REGRETS!
We all have this life only once and everyone has their niche, something they love and think about multiple times throughout the day and it doesn’t matter what it is, no dream is irrelevant or small or big or a waste of time, follow your heart no matter what and give yourself a chance to explore your true self.
Many people regret not going after their dreams specially when it’s too late to take any action.
Even if your heart wants something that seems unattainable or farfetched, follow it anyway. Take the path less traveled anyway, because no one knows what you truly want except you.
Your dreams deserve a fair shot and so as you, even if things don’t work out, you won’t be left with feelings of regret in your heart.
Whether it is traveling the world, or starting your business, or a hobby, give yourself a chance to see what is meant for you, this is the only way you can explore your true self and get closer in becoming the ideal version of you.
The most important thing to consider is your current situation and where you see yourself going if you stay in it. If you see yourself developing very little in or getting very little from your current situation, maybe it’s time you examined those dreams of yours to see where they may be directing you. We’ve been given dreams for a reason, and much of that reason is to give us something to strive for.
The reason i talked about this topic today is because i have been getting second thoughts about my blog, mainly because i don’t know yet if this is something meant for me or if i am doing well or not, all i know is that all this was just a dream about a year ago and i feel so proud 😇 to have given it a chance, coz i know down the line in next few years, i would have totally regretted it so much if i had not taken the risk to get out of my comfort zone.
Every time a negative thought about pursuing something new runs wild in my mind, it instantly takes me back to all those memories associated with the dreams i left behind untouched, unfulfilled, unattained, only to live a life filled with regrets.
If you are someone who feels the same way i do, the only thing i would like to say is :
At the end of your life, you will regret the things you didn’t do, not the things you did do. Live without regrets. What do you have to lose? 🙃
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Photography : Rajvir Sidhu